The Hypnotic Handshake
Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht
The Hypnotic Handshake method is based on brief hypnosis. Brief hypnosis is a less known format of hypnotizing, first initiated by Dr. Milton H. Erickson. Erickson also taught the Hypnotic Handshake method based on the principles of brief hypnosis.
Brief hypnosis claims that most people enter trance (the hypnotic state of mind) and exit trance many times during the day.
One good example would be driving on the free way, white youre figuring out what to say to your boss about you being late again (for the 29th time this month). Not being aware completely to the road and to the driving activity, you still make it in one piece to the office. Thats hypnosis.
Brief hypnosis starts with a rapid induction to get a person into trance. Rapid induction is based on two key principles:
Induction Principle No. 1:
We are predictable creatures. Lift your right hand toward someone, say Hi, smile, and he will automatically lift his right hand to shake yours. Odd. He didnt even think about it, it happened automatically. Its the auto-pilot. One of many automatic behaviors were known of doing without conscious decision.
If you interrupt
an automatic behavior like this, you create an empty space, a query in
the other persons mind, a brief window to the subconscious mind.
It takes less than a second for that window to close, so youd better
Now that the automatic pattern is missing, fill the blank quickly. The other person will follow if its done immediately after the interruption, because our minds dont like voids. They want completion.
Do something that will restore the missing link. Use hypnotic language and fast pacing induction script while talking in your regular voice.
Now that you know the key principles of rapid induction in brief hypnosis, lets move on to show you the Hypnotic Handshake method:
Step 1: Interrupt the Auto Handshake
Lets say youre going to hypnotize John. John is a nice guy, but he deserves to be hypnotized and positively abused (meaning he will be happy during and after the session).
You meet John, smile at him, look him directly in the eyes and you lift your right hand toward him for a handshake. Now stay alert!
For the handshake interrupt, as Johns hand comes up, you form a cup with your thumb and first finger. Instead of meeting Johns right hand with yours, you put your hand in cup form under his hand that is coming to shake.
But then your hand goes back just a little bitdont pull it way back, just an inch. The other hand goes behind the wrist so that it goes up. Just gently cup it and move his hand up in front of his eyes and say, Look!??
Thats an awesome interruption! John would never expect something like that! Oh, poor John Oh well, on with the plan
Step 2: Pull him into hypnosis
In hypnosis we dont ask people to relax and allow themselves to be hypnotized. We make them to be! Yes, I know, I have to be nice to my clients. Still, you have to show them whos the boss, right? And if Im getting paid and they are paying, I guess Im the one whos in charge here.
Dont get nervous now. Pull John into hypnosis. Heres how:
As you pass Johns hand in front of his eyes and say Look!, you point with your other hand toward his hand. Thats a new program.
John, look at your hand and nod when you notice the changing focus of your eyes, and as you notice it, see if you can take a deeper breath than the one you just had and as you notice the changing focus, thats right! You may let your eyes stay close on the next thats the way, I will let you know when you are ready to let your hand rest and go all the way down listen, can you hear all the sounds, arent they clearer
And from here you can continue with deepeners or with hypnotic suggestions and make Johns shocking experience of hypnosis a pleasant one.
One warning: make sure your victim (cough client) is sitting on a chair and not standing up. I did this technique once on a non believer while he was standing up, and he fell down on the floor I had to use amnesia and pain-killer techniques to make sure hes not resentful afterwards
Oh, and another warning: remember to take John out of hypnosis when youre done!
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