Laurie Nadel, Ph.D.
In "Stress and America," the American Psychological Association reported that 80% of Americans feel stressed about the economic crisis; 60% feel angry about it; and 52% are having trouble sleeping.
It is easy to blame the news for the rise in stress levels. But let’s
face it: even when the economy is booming, the news generally tends to
be negative in tone.
Ruminating obsessively about the economy or letting your fears keep
you awake at night is like blaming the wall for being made of brick when
you are the one who keeps slamming your head against it.
Whether it’s a brick wall or the economic crisis, your head stops hurting. (Aaah! Doesn’t that feel better?)
"That’s easy for you to say," you may be thinking. "But what, specifically, can I do to stop worrying?"
The first key is to identify the Mind Traps that keep
you from thinking productively and finding solutions. Here are five of
the most common Mind Traps:
Every time you watch the news on TV or your computer,
or listen on the radio, or read a newspaper or blog about the impact
of the economic crisis, your mind selects the images, words, and themes
that have the greatest emotional impact. Within nanoseconds, you are
watching large, bright colorful 'mind movies' about bankruptcy,
home foreclosures, swindlers, and people who became so desperate after
losing large sums of money that they committed suicide.
Here’s the solution: Change the channel! Imagine you have a remote control in your hand and you can switch from watching those disaster movies to watching something that makes you feel good. How about your very own personal "Health and Fitness Channel?" Or your "Friends and Family" channel?
It’s your mind. It’s your TV. It’s your remote. Stop banging your head against the wall. It’s not the economy, stupid. You forgot to change the channel. So do it.
Mind Trap #2: Getting stuck in NeverAlways Land.
When I was a young girl, Peter Pan was one of my favorite stories.
In one version, the actress Mary Martin played Peter Pan. She sang a
song to describe her life:
We become adults. We have families and careers. We take
on responsibilities. We work hard to pay our bills. When a financial
crisis like the present one escalates to becoming the number one issue
on everyone's mind, our attention starts to wander. Without realizing
it, we have drifted into the emotional swamplands of NeverAlways Land.
We start to think, "I’ll
never get out of debt," "I will always have financial problems," "We
will never recover," etc.
There is a solution: When you are feeling stuck, pay attention to the words you use when you are speaking out loud or in your head. Write down every time you use "Always" or "Never."
Draw a border around your list of "Always" and "Never"
phrases. This 'territory' of the mind is NeverAlways Land.
As you become more aware of when you use these generalizations, it will
become easier for you to navigate away from NeverAlwaysLand. Try replacing "Never" and "Always" with
some of the following words:
Mind Trap #3: It’s not fair!
One of my first jobs was assistant editor for the Comic Book Association of America. It was my job to read the story boards and make sure they conformed to the comic book industry association code which went something like this: "In every comic book story, good must always triumph over evil and the villain must never be allowed to escape."
Boys and girls, I am sorry to have to break it to you but real life
In some ways, Mind Trap #3 seems like the cruelest of them all. There is no rational answer for why honest, hard-working individuals will be prevented from retiring because of the stock market’s tanking. Nor can I assist you in understanding why the CEO’s of General Motors, Ford, and Chrysler have corporate jets at their disposal when thousands of auto workers are unemployed.
I do know that ruminating about the unfairness of it all will make it impossible for you to find that new job or scale down your expenses. What it will do is keep you stuck in the mentality of a victim, which you are not. You can choose to think differently.
"You probably spent more time learning how to drive a car than learning how to use your brain," said Richard Bandler, a founder of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). Whether you are out of work or afraid of losing your job or just plain worried, now is the best time to find your hidden strengths and make use of intelligences that you never knew you had.
It is possible that years from now, you will look back at this crisis and say, "It wasn’t fair but if I hadn’t gone through all that, I would not be who I am today. I would never know that I had certain strengths and abilities because I would not have been motivated to discover them."
Mind Trap#4: There is nothing I can do.
In the 1990’s, I spent 7 years teaching in corporate universities. One of my favorite homework assignments was asking students to bring into class an "impossible problem."
"What makes a problem impossible?" you may wonder.
Mind Trap #4 is a virtual "bridge to nowhere." If you do not believe you are incapable of coming up with new ideas, you will stay stuck. If you frame the problem so that you do not have control over the choices that need to be made in order to solve the problem, guess what? You won’t be able to solve it. And if you frame the problem in a yes/no, black/white, either/or format, you are assuming there is only one correct answer. In complex, real-life situations, rarely is there one correct answer. Just as Mind Trap#4 has a few layers of complexity, so do real-life problems. Stay far away from Mind Trap#4 if you really want solutions.
Mind Trap #5: "Second pig" thinking.
In the story of the three little pigs, the big bad wolf threatened to huff and puff and blow down the house of the first little pig. He panicked and built a house of straw. The wolf came, as promised. You know what happened.
The second little pig saw what happened to the first pig and said, "Hmm…that was a flimsy house of straw." He threw together a house of sticks. The wolf came, huffed and puffed, blew the second little pig’s house down, and ate him.
The third little pig thought for awhile. "The problem isn’t
the house. The wolf is the source of the problem."
MIND TRAP #5 can be avoided quite easily. Take time to think about the source of a problem before you try to fix it. That way, it won’t come back.
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