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Setting
New Year Resolutions with the Law of Attraction
Simple Strategies to Align Energetically
With Your New Year Resolutions and Achieve Them Easily
By Valerie
Dawson, Certified Hypnotherapist
Creator of Hypnotic
Visualization Guided Audios
It's that time of year again – people all around
the world will be evaluating their progress and gearing up to start fresh
on their goals in the New Year. Unfortunately, many of those people will
not make any more progress than they have in previous years, simply because
they are locked into self-destructive thought patterns. Have you done
this too?
Each year you think about the changes you want to make, conceive a genius
plan that will change your life forever, and wait eagerly for January
1st to arrive. When the clock strikes midnight on December 31st, it's
full steam ahead! You're off to a great start and confidently began
taking the steps you know will lead directly to the life of your dreams!
And then... a couple of weeks later, maybe even a month later, you
begin losing steam. At first it may be small things, like encountering
a few minor obstacles or struggling to stay motivated about working on
your goals; but before you know it, you find yourself feeling stuck,
tired, angry, frustrated... and wondering what you were thinking when
you set these stupid goals anyway. Eventually you give up and vow to
do better next year -- but the following year you just repeat the
same cycle all over again.
Whether the above scenario describes your situation exactly or not, it
stands as a common example of how easy it is to set New Year Resolutions
-- and how difficult it can be to follow through and actually achieve
them. If you have struggled in any way to stay committed to your New
Year goals, this report is for you.
We're going to highlight 15 common problems (we'll call them "challenges"
for the sake of keeping a positive outlook!) that people encounter while
pursuing their goals, and offer helpful remedies for working through
them effectively.
More importantly, we're going to address these challenges from
a Law of Attraction standpoint – because you cannot manifest anything
in your life until you are energetically aligned with it first! Action
alone is not enough – you've probably learned that from your
previous unrealized resolutions. Get ready to see your New Year Resolutions
in a whole new way – and achieve more than you ever believed possible
before.
Resolution Challenge #1 – Identifying
the Essence of What You Want
One of the biggest mistakes people make when setting New Year Resolutions
is that they don't first get clear about what they REALLY want,
and more importantly, WHY they want it.
Do you know what you want - really? Don't be tempted to skip over
this section because you think you already know what you want. Think
about this for a moment:
How many times have you achieved a goal and then quickly realized that
you weren't satisfied with it? Such an experience can be confusing,
to say the least! You wonder how you could have chosen a goal that now
seems not to matter at all to you. Or you point to one tiny negative
aspect of the outcome and say, "Well, if it wasn't for that,
I'd be satisfied. It just didn't turn out like I hoped, that's
all."
But that's not usually what's happening in this type of situation.
Rather, you may have set a goal based on the surface circumstances that
you believed would make you feel happy, rather than focusing on the underlying
ESSENCE of what you really wanted.
For example, let's say that one of your goals was to work less
so you have more time to enjoy life. You manage to rearrange your schedule
so you have more time to yourself, but within a few weeks you start feeling
bored and restless. You decide that freedom is overrated and eagerly
bury yourself in work again – but you still feel dissatisfied and
yearn for something more.
What happened with this goal?
There are numerous possibilities, but most likely you were craving something
else, not just "freedom" – but you never connected
with exactly what you wanted.
Perhaps you were actually craving creative expression, which you could
have satisfied by setting aside a few hours a week to explore your artistic
side. Maybe you actually desired a deeper spiritual connection, which
you could have achieved through daily meditation or journaling.
Every goal you set will have a deeper desire stemming from it. But the
Law of Attraction cannot deliver the essence of that deeper desire unless
you know what it is.
The Remedy:
Rather than focusing on the external situation or circumstances you are
trying to create with your New Year Resolution, focus on the underlying
FEELING you want to experience.
Whenever you set a goal, your immediate question should be, "Why
do I want this?" Don't allow yourself to give a pat answer
like, "It will make me happy." WHY will it make you happy?
What feelings will these new circumstances or experiences provide for
you? Why are these feelings important to you? What deeper needs will
they satisfy?
You may be surprised by what comes up when you start asking questions
like this. You'll become aware of needs you didn't even know
you had. But that's a good thing, because only by knowing what
you truly want can you tune into it and attract it.
Another side benefit is that by being super-clear on what you want, you
may discover much easier and quicker ways to get it, maybe by making
some small changes instead of tackling huge goals that will take years
to achieve. Sometimes we can't see the forest for the trees and
end up making things much harder than they need to be.
When you tune into the essence of what you want and stay focused on it,
the Law of Attraction will be able to lead you to the easiest, fastest,
simplest methods and opportunities to help you achieve it. That beats
long, complex, difficult plans that you would have created yourself,
right?

Resolution Challenge #2 – Holding Positive,
Yet Flexible Expectations
How many times have you set a massive goal while thinking, "This
will be a breeze"?
You imagine yourself effortlessly taking action each
day, easily moving toward your chosen outcome and reaching it in record
time. Unfortunately, that's not the way it usually happens.
Instead, you struggle almost from the get-go and feel overwhelmed and
frustrated when you don't seem to be progressing as quickly as
you planned. Rather than acknowledging that you may have set your sights
too high, you may be tempted to give up altogether.
Unfortunately, we often fail to realize that it is far easier to think
about doing something than it is to actually DO it, especially if we
have limiting beliefs that might be holding us back.
With every goal you set, understand that there is going to be a period
of transition as you work toward it. You can't expect to make a
giant leap from mailroom clerk to CEO in a matter of weeks, or lose 50
pounds in a month, or go from being a couch potato to a marathon runner
overnight.
But you also can't allow negative expectations to prevent you from
trying at all. Rather, your goal should be to keep your expectations
positive but also flexible.
The Remedy:
One good way to do this is to start smaller. Not many people will enjoy
hearing that, but it's a good idea if you want to avoid getting
frustrated and giving up.
There's nothing wrong with setting big goals and having big dreams,
but you also want to start with those that you believe are most achievable.
The truth is that all goals are achievable, especially when you work
in co-creative partnership with the universe, but you may have a hard
time believing that some goals are achievable, and if you believe that
you will block them from manifesting.
However, you can overcome these obstacles by either setting smaller goals
to start with, or balancing your expectations of how and when your
goal will come to fruition. Which one you choose will depend on your
personal preferences.
There are people who can set a large goal, hold to their vision and diligently
work toward it for years until they achieve it. They never lose sight
of what they're working toward, they don't doubt that they
will receive the outcome they want, and they're willing to wait
patiently until it happens.
But some people are the opposite -- they want results and they want
them fast! If that describes you, you'll probably be happier setting
smaller goals and enjoying moderate results as you go along.
Remember, you can expand your goal consistently too. If your ultimate
goal is to be earning $100,000 a year with your own business but you
feel too overwhelmed or intimidated by that figure, start with a smaller
goal of $20,000 and then raise the amount when you reach the first benchmark.
If you want to lose 50 pounds, try focusing on 10 pounds at a time. Fifty
pounds sounds like a lot, but when you consider that it's only
5 sets of 10 pounds, it seems a lot more achievable.
Nearly any large goal can be broken down into smaller pieces – and
when you focus on achieving those smaller goals they eventually add up
to big success!
Another important point to keep in mind is that you don't have
to achieve the entire goal on your own. Allow the universe to work with
you. Hold to the vision and you will be led to the people, resources,
opportunities and means to achieve the goal more easily than you could
accomplish on your own. Just be flexible about how and when all this
progress happens. Expect the best but don't get attached to specific
ways or timeframes.
Resolution Challenge #3 – Balancing Effort
with Alignment
Working toward any new goal seems hard at the beginning, but sometimes
we underestimate just how hard it can get. Sometimes the
struggle is the result of unrealistic expectations, like we covered a
moment ago. Taking on a bigger goal than you're ready for can definitely
make the journey seem impossible.
But there's also a more common reason for goal-achievement seeming
difficult at the beginning, and that is: you have to build momentum before
it will seem easier. When it comes to working with the Law of Attraction,
this applies both physically and energetically.
A common analogy used to describe momentum is pushing a car. To get the
car rolling, you have to exert a lot of force. But the longer you push,
momentum begins to take over and you hardly have to push at all to keep
the car moving along.
Goals are very much the same in that you have to work harder at them
in the beginning than you do toward the end. If you work at them for
long enough, you enter this "zone" where it just seems simple
to take the action steps and make steady progress each day.
Another good example is starting a new fitness routine. Your first workout
will probably seem a little bit like torture. Your muscles will burn
and ache; you'll be drenched in sweat and end up wondering if a
sedentary life might not be so bad after all...
But what happens if you keep pushing through your workouts every day?
You build muscle and get stronger. You feel more energetic. You'll
probably even begin to enjoy working out. The stronger you get, the more
easily you are able to keep up the momentum.
Every goal will have this in common. But it goes much deeper than physical
effort; you also need to build up your "vibrational muscles" by
consistently attuning to the outcome you are trying to create. All of
the action in the world cannot overcome energetic gaps. If you don't
work daily on getting aligned with your desired outcome, the actions
you take will seem much harder than they really need to be, and probably
be completely ineffective.
The Remedy:
Obviously, the remedy for this one is simple: keep your efforts in proper
perspective by working steadily toward the outcome each day and remembering
that you are building momentum. Keep reminding yourself that it won't
always be so challenging. While that sounds simple, it may not always
be easy to convince yourself. Therefore, here are a couple of strategies
that will help you align with your goal mentally and energetically:
Relish the challenge: Have you ever noticed that your self-talk
determines your attitude? If you keep whining about how hard it is, that
it will take forever to make progress, you're going to be miserable and
probably make very little progress.
On the other hand, if you were to keep telling yourself that you're
enjoying the process, that it's not so bad, that you feel great
as you take one step after another toward your goals – you'll
instantly feel more motivated and your progress will probably be greater
too. Convince yourself that you have what it takes to keep moving forward
and that it's not as hard as you feared. Often, just believing
this is enough to make it so.
Baby steps: At any point if you feel intimidated or frustrated
because you're not making progress quickly enough, try narrowing your
focus onto ONE tiny aspect of your goal. Every goal will probably have
numerous action steps that you'll take each day as you work toward it,
but trying to do all of them at once might prove overwhelming.
If that's the case, try doing just ONE of the action steps until
it gets easier. Then add another one, and another, until you are doing
all of them with less struggle.
As for energetic alignment, one of the best ways to get steadily more
aligned with your outcome is to keep imagining it already accomplished.
Sit quietly and envision yourself enjoying the goal already accomplished.
See yourself enjoying your bigger salary, living in the home of your
dreams, feeling great about your slender new body. Do this daily and
you will be consistently altering your energetic signal to match the
essence of what you are trying to achieve, which means the physical effort
you need to apply to achieve it will be much less than it would be otherwise.
Resolution Challenge #4 – Doing the Inner
Work First
We typically think of goal-achievement as an external process only. We
are here at Point A, and we want to move to Point B. While we do indeed
make external changes, we also need to remember that we become a different
person through the achievement of our goals. Therefore, we will undergo
an internal adjustment even as we're making external transitions.
This is especially true in the context of the Law of Attraction.
You can't achieve anything outwardly until you get aligned with
it within – which means steadily becoming the person who will have
the outer circumstances you want.
How does this pose a challenge?
If you don't prepare yourself for the new circumstances you're
trying to create, you won't be mentally and emotionally ready to
handle them. Let's use an example to expand on this idea.
Imagine that your goal is to lose 50 pounds. If you simply focus on "losing
weight," you'll overlook the fact that you gained weight
in the first place because of specific reasons – and you'll
struggle not to gain it all back unless you make some inner changes.
Doing some inner work might reveal that you gained weight because of
low self-esteem, believing that you don't deserve time for self-care,
or emotional vulnerability. You can bet that these kinds of beliefs need
to be resolved – or they will keep limiting your ability to lose
weight, keep it off and live a happier life.
The same thing happens with other types of goals. You can set a goal
to be more successful in business, but if you don't first understand
what has limited your success thus far, you might simply repeat the
cycle at a later time. Do you have trouble believing in your own abilities?
Are you afraid of taking risks? Do you have a fear of selling that
limits how much you promote your products and services? Addressing
these underlying issues may make the difference between failure and
success.
The Remedy:
One of the most effective strategies for overcoming this challenge is
to consider the qualities you'd need to handle the achievement
of your goal, and begin building them now.
For example, if your goal is greater business success, ask yourself what
qualities a successful business person would have – such as confidence,
courage, creativity, flexibility, and so on. Once you've got a
list of these qualities, begin developing them within yourself. Practice
being more confident and courageous, express your creative side more
often, work on being flexible as often as possible, etc.
If your goal is to live a healthier lifestyle, consider why you haven't
been living such a lifestyle until now. Do you have trouble believing
that you deserve to be healthy and happy? Does much of your diet consist
of "comfort food" that covers emotional issues you could
be resolving in a healthier way?
If you work on these inner issues while you're also doing the outer
work, your chances of lasting success will double. As you may have guessed,
this is also one of the secrets of successful manifesting -- being
able to "be" that which you want to attract. If you want
to attract a lot of money, you need to BE a person who has plenty of
money. If you want to attract your soul mate, you have to BE a person
who already has their soul mate. This is powerful and the Law of Attraction
begins responding to your new signal immediately.

Resolution Challenge #5 – Sacrificing
for Your Higher Good
Every goal requires sacrifice of some kind, and it's easy to forget
this sometimes. Most often we tend to focus on what we stand to GAIN
from the achievement of our goals, not what we stand to lose. However,
failing to acknowledge and prepare for the sacrifices can set us up for
a rude awakening and threaten our eventual success.
What kind of sacrifices have you made for your goals in the past? Did
you give up some of your favorite television shows so you could spend
more time working on your goals? Did you give up your favorite dessert
when you started a new health regime?
Let's face it; sacrifices aren't fun. It usually means giving
up something you enjoy, even if temporarily. But, does that always have
to be true? You may be surprised to learn that with the right outlook,
sacrifices can seem like a good thing.
The Remedy:
When it comes to sacrifices, only two things matter:
Willingness: Very often when you are willing to release something
that is no longer serving you, it becomes a simple act. It's only when
you keep clinging to something that letting it go seems really difficult.
It also helps if you keep affirming that what you stand to gain is worth
the cost of what you're giving up. Rarely are these rigid concepts;
more often they will change according to your perceptions.
For example, when you first set your goals and start working toward them
you may believe that your sacrifices are well worth it. Your motivation
is strong and you're feeling optimistic that you can overcome any
temptations to slide back into old habits.
But as time goes on and you begin to miss the things that once provided
a sense of comfort or pleasure, you may wonder whether you can continue
making these
sacrifices. In fact, the question "Is it worth it?" is one
you'll probably have to answer over and over again until you reach
a point where your new habits have overridden the old.
Trust: Even more important than being willing to let go of
destructive or unproductive habits is the ability to trust that the actions
you take today will pay off in the future. You have to trust that the
situations, people, places and things you are releasing will be replaced
by even better things later.
Belief comes into this step in a big way – if you don't believe
that your goals will be realized, you may have trouble trusting the bigger
process of manifestation. However, you can work on this by consistently
affirming your belief and your trust day by day. The more you do, the
stronger your belief will grow and the easier it will be to trust.
Resolution Challenge #6 – Believing in
Yourself and Your Abilities
Lack of belief in your own abilities is also a common reason why New
Year Resolutions fail. Let's face it; if you really believed you
could achieve your goal, you probably would have done it before now!
(Unless your goal is brand new, of course. But most people set the same
goals multiple times before they actually achieve them.)
How can you tell if you don't have a strong belief in yourself?
Probably the most telling clue is that you'll hesitate when it
comes to taking risks. You may find yourself holding back on something
you really want to do, or you might procrastinate on taking action steps
related to your goals.
In order to achieve any goal, you first need to believe you CAN. This
involves much more than hoping or wishing -- it requires an unshakable
core belief in your own ability to work through challenges, stay committed
and do whatever it takes to be successful.
Most importantly, the Law of Attraction will only deliver outcomes that
do not conflict with your existing beliefs. If you believe you cannot
achieve a specific goal, the Law of Attraction will simply make sure
the outcome validates your doubt.
But how do you build belief in yourself and your abilities? Most of us
are not born with this level of confidence; we have to build it little
by little.
The Remedy:
There are two angles from which you can approach this challenge:
Mentally: One of the best ways to build up your belief is to
keep envisioning yourself accomplishing the goal you have set. Did you
know that athletes have participated in studies where they mentally "practiced"
their sport over and over – and their physical performance improved
as a result? It's true! Visualization is incredibly powerful,
so use that tool to your advantage.
You may also find it helpful to recite some powerful affirmations like
these:
"I can do this, I know I can."
"I'm willing to believe that I can handle this challenge."
"I'm nervous, but I'm going to do it anyway."
"I grow in confidence with every step I take!"
"With enough practice, everything becomes easy."
Additionally, you may also want to take a few minutes each day to think
about some previous accomplishments. What other activities did you once
feel nervous about, but have since mastered? Relive those old fears and
feel proud about your ability to overcome them! Remind yourself that
you can do the same thing with your current goals.
Physically: Do the very thing you fear! The more you do something,
the more confident you'll become with it, right? It's just like anything
else in life. The first time you drove a car you were probably shaky
and nervous. The first time you gave a speech you were probably standing
in a puddle of sweat.
It's the old "fight or flight" response to a perceived
threat – and it's completely normal! It's your mind's
way of telling your body that it may be entering a dangerous situation.
But if you can keep pushing through that fear, it will eventually go
away because you'll condition yourself to believe that there is
truly nothing to fear.
Resolution Challenge #7 – Transforming
Fear of Failure
Fear of failure is one big reason why many people can't seem to
move forward in life. They constantly dream big dreams, set big goals,
create big plans – only to find themselves procrastinating, holding
back, or making little progress.
Worse, how does the Law of Attraction respond to fearful thoughts and
feelings? It simply delivers exactly what you're focusing on, positive
or negative. If you fear failure you are essentially setting yourself
up for failure, or at least constant obstacles or problems that block
the progress you want to make.
Even if you don't think this challenge applies to you, remember
that a fear of failure isn't always obvious, either. Our minds
have ways of tricking us that are very convincing.
For example, let's say you set a goal to lose weight and get into
better shape for the New Year. You start out very well, sticking to your
workouts and eating right. The numbers on the scale are beginning to
creep downward -- when all of a sudden you find yourself in situations
that are ripe with temptation. You forget to bring your nutritious lunch
to work one day, visit the cafeteria and choose the most fattening meal
on the menu -- then you wonder why you did that? Or you call a friend
and invite him or her to dinner at a restaurant and use the outing as
an excuse to eat more than you should, effectively blowing your healthy
eating plan for the day.
You may not realize right away that you're sabotaging your own
efforts. In fact, it's usually quite the opposite: you feel frustrated
because these outer influences are interfering with your plan to lose
weight! However, if you dig deeply enough and look closely at what's
really going on, you'll usually find some fears lurking beneath
the surface.
You may realize that your shrinking size brings up feelings of fear because
you know that other people are going to start noticing, which will put
more pressure on you to keep going. You may be afraid of reaching a plateau
and getting stuck there – so you invent external situations that
you can point to and say, "I failed because of that."
There are many possible ways for a fear of failure to make itself known,
but you'll usually notice it because of an inner sense of hesitation
or dread, or even a lack of self-belief like we covered previously.
The Remedy:
In order to overcome a fear of failure, you have to first understand
that goal achievement is not a "one shot deal". Rarely are
situations so black and white. In fact, the only way you can truly fail
is if you stop trying.
You may fear slipping up with your healthy eating plan because it will
mean "failure" -- but the only person who can decide
whether you've failed or not is YOU. If you decide that one slip
is not a big deal and get right back on plan, have you failed? Of course
not.
The concept of "failure" is based solely on your own perceptions.
If you refuse to buy into a rigid concept of failure and success and
instead just take the process one day at a time – one moment at
a time – you can't fail. You will simply keep making positive
choices and enjoying the progress that comes along with them.
It's also important to keep reminding yourself that the Law of
Attraction will deliver exactly what you focus on and believe. So, make
it your mission to focus on success! Focus on believing that you can
accomplish anything you desire. Focus on how great you will feel when
your goal has been manifested in full living color.
Resolution Challenge #8 – Transforming
Fear of Success
Closely related to the fear of failure is the fear of success. It may
seem that these two challenges are complete opposites, but they are more
similar than you may think. Both of them involve one common belief: that
you won't be able to handle the consequences of the outcome.
A fear of failure raises worries about the consequences of not achieving
your goal, while a fear of success raises worries about the consequences
of succeeding at your goal. In both cases, you doubt your ability to
handle the results.
Using the same weight loss example from above, a fear of success may
cause you to worry that your friends and family will treat you differently
if you lose weight. Or you may wonder how you'll ever be able to
have a good time at parties if you can't enjoy your favorite foods – after
all, a "skinny" person doesn't pig out on junk food.
You may worry about the expense of buying a new wardrobe to fit your
smaller size - or any number of other fears related to the outcome
of your goal.
Once again, you are operating under the assumption that you won't
be able to handle such a possibility, or that it would be somehow "bad"
if it happened – and the Law of Attraction will simply deliver
an outcome that matches your fearful feelings.
The Remedy:
Overcoming this fear is simple if you come up with some coping strategies
ahead of time. Start by making a list of your specific fears, along with
things you could do to cope with them if they happened.
Fear:
I won't know how to relate to men when I'm thin and attractive.
Strategy:
I would relate to them exactly as I do now, but I could also work more
on building my self-confidence to deal with unwanted advances, etc.
Fear:
I really can't afford to buy a new wardrobe right now; maybe I
should hold off on this goal until spring.
Strategy:
I won't need smaller sizes immediately. Between now and then I
can set aside the money I used to spend on junk food, cut back in other
areas, and even check out some consignment or thrift shops – they
always have great deals on clothing. The universe will provide everything
I need; I do believe that.
Whatever your specific fears are, addressing them will convince you that
you CAN handle the outcome, no matter what it may be.
Even better, be sure to keep visualizing the strategies being easy and
fun. Visualize yourself feeling confident and strong. Visualize yourself
having plenty of money to cover everything you need, and so on. Then
you will be focusing on solutions, not potential problems.

Challenge #9 – Dissolving Obstacles
It's happened to the best of us; we're moving steadily along
toward our goals, feeling motivated and empowered -- when all of
a sudden there's an obstacle in our path and we freeze like a deer
caught in the headlights of a car! What do we do? How do we get around
this? Yikes!
Unexpected obstacles are responsible for many unrealized goals, simply
for one reason: the goal seeker didn't have a plan in place
to deal with it, so they gave up. Preparing for obstacles is one of the
most important parts of goal-setting – but few people take the
time to do it. When most of us set a goal, we're optimistic and confident
that we can succeed. We don't like to think about possible obstacles
that may threaten our dreams.
However, not planning ahead for obstacles practically guarantees that
we won't know how to handle them when they appear – and appear
they usually will. This is true even when using the Law of Attraction – in
fact, many of the obstacles you encounter will likely be the result of
subconscious limiting beliefs that you may not even know you have.
The Remedy:
The solution to this challenge is clear: make obstacles a non-issue and
they will dissolve.
Believe it or not, your own reaction to the obstacles usually determines
how tenacious they are. If you get flustered, upset, or intimidated by
them, you will only make them seem stronger and more intimidating. If
you react with calm and positive expectation, they will usually resolve
themselves -- or you will be shown solutions to move beyond them.
This nonchalant attitude does require a bit of faith and trust that the
universe is working with you to manifest your dreams. Rather than seeing
obstacles as roadblocks, you have to elevate your vision and choose to
see them as nothing more than momentary stopping points.
If you keep focusing on the fact that there is a solution for every obstacle
(even if you don't yet know what the solution is) you will call
forth that solution from the universe.
Most often it happens quickly as long as you don't block it with
negative thoughts and emotions!
Resolution Challenge #10 – Surrendering Your Need to Control
Have you ever set a goal to accomplish something where
much of the outcome was out of your control? For example, let's say you
set a goal to secure 10 new clients each month for your consulting business.
That sounds like a fine goal, but the outcome is dependent upon the actions
of other people; in this case, your clients. You can't force new
clients to seek your services. You can't control whether they sign
on with you or not. And if you try forcing the outcome, you're
probably going to end up feeling frustrated and disappointed.
The Remedy:
A better way is to set your intention for the outcome you would like
to achieve, and then let the universe help you achieve it – even
if it happens in ways you didn't expect. For example, rather than
intending to secure 10 new clients each month, why not decide how many
active clients you would like to have 3 months from now, and then ask
the universe to show you the best way to achieve it?
Keep visualizing yourself servicing the exact number of clients you wish
to have. Visualize being paid by those clients and enjoying productive,
beneficial business relationships with them. The more you focus on this,
the more the universe is going to start sending the means to make it
happen.
Either new clients will find their way to you by word of mouth or previous
marketing you did; or you may suddenly receive an inspired idea to attract
the attention of new clients. "Inspired actions" like these
are usually unexpected and very easy to put into motion.
Even if you don't receive "inspired actions" from the
universe, you can certainly start taking your own actions day by day.
However, do so from a detached, calm state of mind. Your goal is not
to force the outcome to happen, but to do your part in the co-creative
process.
Don't worry about how everything will come together; simply do
what you can and then let it go. Trust that the universe will help you
in ways you couldn't have imagined and enjoy the process that unfolds
before you.
Resolution Challenge #11 – Opening to
Universal Guidance
Part of releasing control of the "how" and working in partnership
with the universe involves actively seeking inspired guidance each day.
Most of us have a lot of mental static, scattered thoughts, doubts and
worries fluttering around in our heads so that we aren't aware
of our own inner wisdom - but it's always there, available
for our use. In the process of goal-setting, this wisdom can be a powerful
tool for success if you remember to use it. Unfortunately, many people
don't use it, and they end up struggling and floundering about
and making very little progress on their goals. Or, as described in the
previous challenge, they try to control the entire process and end up
creating more obstacles for themselves.
The Remedy:
What if you had an advisor that knew everything about you and your life
and could give you answers for every question you have ever or will ever
have? Would you consult this advisor? Of course you would; who wouldn't?!
Well, that advisor is your own inner wisdom and it is always there for
you, always connected to universal wisdom, and can show you the easiest
path to achieve all of your goals.
To tap into this wisdom, all you have to do is get very quiet and relaxed.
Do your best to quiet your mind, release scattered thoughts, and then
focus your attention inward. You may not feel anything in particular,
except perhaps very calm. Asking questions in this calm center will usually
result in answers coming back to you. They may be very soft or subtle,
like a fleeting thought, a few brief words, or even a quick mental image.
As simple as the answers may seem, they almost always hold a solution
or opportunity that you probably didn't see on your own.
For example, with the goal of securing new clients, you might ask your
inner wisdom if there is anything you can do to help the goal become
reality, and you might suddenly get an idea to run a special holiday
offer that would entice new clients to sign on with you. Or even if an
answer doesn't come to you immediately, you may recognize an opportunity
a day or two later while you are going about your normal activities.
Like any skill, tuning into your inner wisdom gets easier the more you
do it. Get yourself a notebook and create a daily practice of asking
questions and jotting down any answers you seem to receive. Over time
you will be amazed at how much insight can come to you in this way.
Resolution Challenge #12 – Eliminating
Conflicting Priorities
Another big challenge that can derail your resolutions is conflicting
priorities, or even conflicting intentions. You know what you want and
you probably know what you need to do to get it, but following through
can sometimes be difficult. You may have demands in other areas of your
life, such as family or work that prevent you from sticking to your plans.
Or you may have a lot of distractions that make it hard to stay focused.
Conflicting priorities can cause such a heavy sense of defeat that you
may be tempted to give up on your goals altogether. Even more importantly,
feeling conflicted within only communicates that conflict to the universe,
which means you keep attracting more conflict and split intentions.
The Remedy:
The good news is that there are several ways to handle inner conflict.
First, consider whether your outer distractions might actually be caused
by you, and you are creating chaos without realizing it. For example,
if you have a fear of success or failure related to your goals, you may
find yourself agreeing to extra obligations so you can avoid working
on your goals. The extra work provides a great excuse for why you failed
to achieve your goals again. Or you may procrastinate to the point where
everything converges at once and you need to scramble to meet deadlines
at the last minute. Sometimes what seem to be outer distractions may
actually be caused by inner conflict. That would be the first place to
look, and resolve any fears, doubts, uncertainties or problematic issues
you find.
If you discover that you're not sabotaging your efforts but still
have a lot of chaos and disorder in your life, do what you can to get
balanced and organized again. You may need to cancel a few unnecessary
obligations so you'll have more time to work on your goals, or
speak to your family members and ask for their support and cooperation.
Remember also that the calmer and more centered you feel, the more your
outer circumstances will reflect that essence. Take time each day to
quiet your mind, relax your body and create harmony in body, mind and
spirit.
If you can't seem to find time to work on your goals,
remember that "priority" means taking precedence in order of importance.
That means you'll probably have to decide what's most important
to you, moment to moment. Just how important is your goal? Is it more
or less important than your other obligations and commitments? If your
goal is truly important to you, you will do what it takes to make time
for working on it – no matter how much juggling or eliminating
unnecessary obligations you may have to do.
No matter the causes of your inner and outer conflicts, you will find
that they can be easily resolved if you focus on the solutions rather
than getting upset about the challenges.

Resolution Challenge #13 – Strengthening
Your Commitment
This challenge goes hand in hand with prioritizing because if you are
not truly committed to your goal, you simply won't make it a priority
in your life. When you first set a resolution, you are "resolving" to
do something. That means pledging, or swearing to the fact that you will
follow through. But how often do you really mean this when you set goals?
What many of us do instead is attach little addendums to our pledge,
like staying committed until we lose interest or obstacles threaten
our confidence. That's why getting crystal clear about what you
really want (as covered in Challenge #1) is so important. You're
much more likely to go the distance for something you want badly rather
than a vague desire.
Still, no matter your objective, you'll need to make a firm commitment
to achieving it and believe that you will achieve it, no matter what.
That's what commitment is; a pledge of constancy and loyalty. Believe
it or not, the universe absolutely reads the "signals" of
strong commitment or wishy-washy intent and delivers outcomes accordingly.
But how do you get and stay committed?
The Remedy:
The number one way to strengthen your commitment is to make your goal
so vitally important that quitting is simply not an option. Imagine what
it would be like to have a goal that you simply couldn't give up
on; a goal that you would work toward for years on end if you had to.
Is your goal that important to you? If not, you've got two choices:
Make it that important: Take some time to think about the negative
consequences of abandoning your goal. What would the likely outcome be?
Poor health and reduced lifespan? Professional stagnation? Depression
and emptiness? Are you willing to accept those outcomes? You've
got to convince yourself that there is no other acceptable outcome for
your goals but success.
Choose a better goal: If you can't seem to summon the level
of commitment needed to achieve your goal, it's probably not as important
as you'd like it to be. Take some time to think about what you
really want, and set a goal that WILL be vitally important; important
enough to inspire a rock-solid level of commitment.
Keep affirming daily that your goals will be your reality and you will
not accept anything less. Insist that they will be manifested in full
physical form – and the universe will receive your signal of
unwavering faith and deliver exactly what you intend to see.
Resolution Challenge #14 – Devoting
Time and Energy
Closely related to commitment is willpower – or what could be called
"strength of will". Willpower could accurately be described as the unyielding
determination to follow through with an intention.
This is a little different than being committed to a goal. Willpower
focuses more on the moment to moment decisions we make in relation to
our intentions. Let's face it; you can set all the intentions you
want but if you don't have the willpower to stick to them you won't
get far.
Most of us have strong willpower until it's tested by temptation
or challenges. We'll be sticking to a new healthy eating plan,
feeling fine – until a coworker brings in a box of donuts, or until
the scale stops being cooperative. We're committed to working on
our goals every day – until we decide we're not seeing results
as quickly as we'd like.
In order to achieve a goal and manifest the outcome you want, you need
to work on it daily. Not just physically, although physical action is
part of it. But I mean also mentally and energetically - building up
the energy, intention, and inner vision in addition to taking action.
If you don't do that, you won't be putting forth enough focus
to make the goal reality.
The Remedy:
How do you strengthen your willpower so that you will put forth the time
and effort to keep working on your goals? The best way I've found
is simply to create a daily practice. Set an intention to work on it
consistently and stick to that intention like glue. You could start with
smaller intentions if you feel overwhelmed by bigger ones; for example,
set an intention to avoid eating sugar for just one day, or an intention
to work on your goals for just 10 minutes each day.
The most important thing is to not give up when you slip. If you give
in to temptation once, simply strengthen your resolve and start again.
The more you do that, the stronger your willpower is going to get. It
is a process, however, so don't expect yourself to display tremendous
willpower right away. Just keep practicing setting intentions and following
through with them and before long it will get easier to dismiss any temptations
that come your way.
You can also use the power of visualization to strengthen your willpower.
Visualize yourself easily being able to ignore temptations; or eagerly
spending time working on your goals each day. The more you focus on being
committed and empowered about your goals, the more you will find yourself
displaying that strength and focus when you really need it.
Resolution Challenge #15 – Staying Motivated
and Enthusiastic
I purposely saved this challenge for last because it's probably
the most common problem that people face when it comes to pursuing their
goals. It's difficult to keep pushing forward when you lose that
inner fire, isn't it? Yet it happens to all of us at one point
or another.
Feeling motivated and enthusiastic is easy when you first set your resolutions,
because you're feeling inspired and excited about the positive
changes you're going to make in your life. Most often you are optimistic
about the ease of achieving your goals because you haven't had
to deal with obstacles, distractions, stress and frustration yet. Once
you begin working toward your goals and the going gets tough, your motivation
begins to wane.
Maybe you get frustrated because you're not seeing results right
away, or you wonder if you took on too big a goal with all of your other
responsibilities. Even worse, you may start doubting your own capabilities.
All of these things act like big splashes of water on your inner fire.
Before you know it, you're running out of steam and don't
know what to do to get
moving again.
The Remedy:
There are many ways to re-ignite your motivation, but some are more effective
than others. Below are some of the best ones that work well in context
with the Law of Attraction.
Take a break and let go: Believe it or not, stepping back from
your goals for a day or two can do wonders for your state of mind. If
you notice that you're feeling irritable and frustrated a lot as you
pursue your goals, you may be pushing too hard and burning yourself out.
This is especially true when you're trying to FORCE results to
happen. Step back and take some time off to recharge your batteries.
Before long you'll probably be itching to get back to it again.
Change your approach: You may be feeling bored or uninspired
by the action steps you were once so certain would lead you to your goal – and
now you're wishing you'd never set the goal at all. But
remember that you don't have to stick with your original plan
if it's not working for you. Change it up! Go back over your
plans and see if there is a better way to proceed. Engage your creative
thinking and see if you can come up with alternate steps that you would
enjoy more. The changes themselves don't matter except for one
thing: that they get you fired up and eager to proceed once again.
Build yourself up: It's possible that your enthusiasm is dipping
because self-
doubts have begun popping up in your mind, even if you're not consciously
aware of them. A good way to move past these limiting thoughts is to
stimulate your confidence, inner strength and power. Think about the
things you've done in the past that you were proud of, and imagine
all that you can still accomplish. Imagine feeling satisfied and fulfilled
with your life circumstances, being proud of who you are and all you've
done (and will do yet). Affirm that you are much stronger than you usually
think you are, and inspire yourself to push right through these feelings
of lethargy and boredom.
Rekindle your excitement: When you first set your goals, you
were fired up just by the idea of achieving them, and you can easily
get that fire back by mentally revisiting what you want to accomplish.
If you can't seem to get a clear mental image of your desired outcome,
write it down.
Put as much detail as you can into it, and be sure to infuse the description
with feelings of excitement and happiness. Even better, write it in
present tense – as if you've already achieved it! Express
your feelings of joy and satisfaction for having this new experience
in your life.
With a fitness goal, for example, you could write about how great you
feel, how much more energy and focus you have, how your business is booming
because you now have more energy and enthusiasm when you work, how you're
buying a brand new wardrobe to celebrate your achievement, and so on.
There are no right or wrong ways to do this exercise; simply write what
you WANT to happen as a result of achieving your goal! Once you've
got it all written down, be sure to keep it nearby and read it when you
need a boost – several times a day, if necessary.
This exercise is powerful because you begin attuning your energetic signal
to the outcome you want to achieve, rather than the obstacles that may
be holding you back from it. And the more you focus on the thrilling
outcome, the more you will be drawing forth the enthusiasm, the means,
opportunities and resources to make it happen easily.
Taking New Year Resolutions to the Next Level
More than any specific problems you may encounter as you pursue your
goals, understand that success is a simple matter of making conscious
decisions that align with your desired outcome.
Anyone can decide to achieve a goal once – it's your commitment
to the ongoing process of growth and self-mastery that will determine
your eventual success, or failure. When you think about it that way,
goal achievement is really more of a system of gradual shifting from
one state to another.
To be successful in your objectives, be willing to see New Year Resolutions
(or any goals) as intentions to make the right decisions; decisions that
will lead you to where you want to be, wherever you decide that is, now
or in the future.
By doing so, you'll quickly realize that there is no "success
or failure." There are only choices that support your goals or
detract from them. This is very good news because it means that it's
never too late to get back on track! Even if you've spent years
making "bad choices" (those that don't support your
ultimate goals), you can easily begin making "good choices" that
DO support your goals – right now!
A big part of this process involves getting your thoughts in alignment
with the outcome you desire. But it's not just about "positive
thinking". Transforming your thoughts from negative to positive
is certainly a great start, but it's not going to be enough to
transform your entire life. To do that you need to undergo an inner shift
that will alter the signal you are sending to the universe day by day.
This may sound complicated, and it can be if you don't have the
right tools to help you along. That's where The Dawson Method can
help. I have successfully helped thousands of people transform their
lives with my breakthrough technique – you might call it a makeover
for your brain, but I call it "Imprintology". Imprintology
is a process of "imprinting" a success mind-set onto your
own mind and overriding any limiting beliefs and concepts you may already
have there – the very same limiting beliefs that have been holding
you back for most of your life.
Best of all, this process can enhance your ability to achieve ANY goal,
whether it's related to money, business, health and wellness, relationships,
personal fulfillment, inner peace, or anything else that's important
to you.
No matter how many times you have "failed" to achieve your
New Year Resolutions before, they are still within your grasp! Getting
the Law of Attraction to work for you can make the difference this time
around, and you can achieve more in 2010 than you have in ALL the years
you've been setting New Year Resolutions.
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Val Dawson, MSW, CHt,Founder
of The Dawson Method
Valerie
Dawson is a board certified counselor and hypnotherapist with over
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