Tricks for Attracting Beautiful Women
Fuentes / Creator of Sexual
You want sex with beautiful women.
So lets get started; the clock is ticking.
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Why be one of the millions of men whove spent their lives thinking
things like, That girl liked mehow did I mess things up?
What did I do wrong?
you really want to feel your seductive muscles beginning to bulge, if
you really want to start feeling powerfulif you really want to see
your seduction skills get bone-slicing sharp, so that you start seeing
genuine sexual results, fast then, for the next few minutes, youve
got to put aside the gritty, sticky, haunting little details, and look
up at the Big Picture.
Big Picture, when it comes to seducing women, is the realization that
women are profoundly different from men. Not just on the outside, but
on the inside as well. Not just behaviorally, but cognitively. Not just
because of social conditioning, but because of neurology. The brains of
men and women are physically different in specific, measurable ways.
aside the details for now, just remember that women seem different because
they are different. And understanding exactly how they are different,
understanding how they think, will give you a profound and permanent and
ever-growing advantage over the men around you. So:
A woman perceives and thinks differently than you.
She inhabits a completely different subjective universe than you.
Actions that make perfect sense to you can seem irrelevant or off-putting
Actions that seem ridiculous to you can be intoxicating and erotic to
Suppose you want to drive someplace new, someplace youve never been.
Lets call it, for conveniences sake, the Land of Sexual Delight.
Do you just hop in the car and hit the gas? Well, that might workof
course, you might be celebrating your 83rd birthday by the time you get
you want to get there while youre young-- soon as fast as
possiblestarting right now, I suggest you start with a map, so you
can plot out exactly how to get where you going. The
map of seduction youre going to imagine now is actually a comparison
of three perspectives: Telescopic, Face to Face, Microscopic. Or Macro,
Iso, Micro. Or the Societal, the Dyadic, and the Personal. Each of these
levels gives you a set of tools and distinctions for making women very
horny very fast. Operating
with any one of these levels in mind gives you a big advantage over the
guy next to you in a club or bar. Using them all gives you a huge advantage.
The Tribal Level: It Takes a Village
Women are social creatures. Really social creatures. Even the shy ones.
Women, in relation to men, are physically weak and physically vulnerable.
They rely on social bonds for safety, and create social bonds through
emotionality and cunning.
Because women depend on social bonds, they are highly attuned to the opinions
of those around them. Highly attuned, and highly susceptible. When you
and a woman are part of a larger social groupingif you and she are
in a bar, for exampleher opinion of you will be strongly influenced
by the opinion of those around her. Trusting to collective wisdom, she
will place a premium on others perceptions.
Her initial opinion of you will usually be outweighed by the combined
opinion of the three friends she came to the bar with... or the four random
people standing next to her.
Therefore, to get a hot girl to want you, get her not-so-hot friends to
Get her to see how many people approve of you.
Show her how many people, male and female, you get along with.
Demonstrate the width and breadth of your social web. From her perspective,
the wider your social web, the wider her social web will become, if she
succeeds in winning you.
By winning you, every member of your social web will be transformed from
a possible source of physical harm to a source of physical safety. The
more people who seem to like you, the better and more valuable you must
be. The more people who seem to like you, the saferif she wins youshe
You might think, Well, surebut what if I dont know anyone
there? What if I dont have a social web?
You create one.
And that, too, is easy.
Just memorize the six ancient and magical words of Instant Apparent Club
Friendship: How ya doin? and Yeah, thats
You just go around the room, making lots of superficial contacts, having
lots of brief, empty, upbeat conversations. With an air of friendly, cheerful
indifference, ask various people you dont know, especially couples,
How ya doin? Shake
hands, if it seems appropriate. Then nod, smile, say Yeah, thats
cool. And immediately leave to talk with someone else.
The idea is to make sure as many women as possible see you having apparently
friendly conversations with as many people as possible. Each such apparently
friendly interaction gives you social credit, in the eyes of female observers.
For women, social connection equates to social power.
By having lots of short, friendly conversations, you are demonstrating
Which makes you attractive and desirable.
To get the girl you wantto make the girl want to get you let
her see you talking to people you dont want.
By going through the room, casually talking to lots of people, you are
marking territory. You become the master of ceremonies. The star. The
main attraction. The place becomes your place; the revelers, your guests.
Dont worry about rejection. Instead, treat every interaction
as a successful interaction. Smile, nodThats cool, dude.
Be blithe, serene, deliberately shallow, perfectly indifferent.
Act like a game show hostslick, smooth, seamless, nice-yet-detached.
Be friendly, in a way that suggests you have no personal interest whatsoever.
Hey, being nice to the customers is just part of your jobbesides,
youre obviously in on The Real Party that will take place later
in the Hidden VIP Lounge, so what do you care about what happens out on
the floor, among the peasants and little people?
How ya doin? Next.
Be friendly, precisely because you couldnt care less.
Become attractive, by caring so little, that you arent even afraid
Care so little, that you become everyones friendly acquaintance.
And by being everyones friendly, frictionless, non-adhesive, uncatchable
acquaintance, become the emblem of that universal social acceptance which
women so crave.
After you demonstrate that youre a Man of the People, friend to
all, presumably backed by the full force and credit of the community at
large, pick a prominent spot, a spot with few or no other people, a spot
from which you can be easily seen by the woman, or women, you want.
Challenge yourself to relax as much as you possibly can.
cat-in-the-sun, ball-scratchingly relaxed.
Sprawl your arms and legs, so they stick out from your body at wildly
Move the furniture, if it makes you more comfortable.
Roll your neck, if it makes you feel more comfortable.
Push your hands through your hair, if it makes you feel good.
Forget about the world around you.
Let yourself focus entirely on feeling really, really good.
your whole body send this signal: I feel really, really good, and
all I care about is my own pleasure, and I feel much more pleasure than
Maybe youll be approached, maybe not. It doesnt matter. What
matters is that you will be noticed. You will be remarked on. And what
matters much more is that you actually gave yourself time to feel good
and relax. Whatever else happens, doesnt matter. You feel good,
and thats what matters.
The more pleasure and comfort you seem to feeland the more pleasure
and comfort you do feelthe more pleasure and comfort a woman will
believe that you can make her feel.
More on this later.
At this point, youve worked the room, and youve cut a profile.
The next step is to choose a target. If shes in a group, approach
and engage the other members of the group first. Make your target feel
confused, neglected, and envious by disregarding her and chatting up her
friends, male and female.
If you like, increase the pressure by leaving that group, and chatting
Be seen with some other pretty girls.
Get in the habit of leading girls into silly, strange, childlike behavior
in public. Do this by acting like a coach or yoga teacher
or a parody
of a coach or yoga teacher. Just tell a girl what to do, in an insistent,
stern, demanding (and subtly self-parodying) way. Make sure what youre
telling her to do is something public, rather than private. Persuading
two or three girls to do something outlandish is often much easier than
persuading one girl alone. Group activity reinforces their friendship
with each other.
Give a girl an opportunity to be the center of attention. Allow her to
deny responsibility for acting out this need for attentiondo this,
by playing ringmaster.
You see that wall over there? You, Cindy, stand behind Tatiana and take
her hand. Tatiana, extend your other handpalm up, dammit!now
place it in mine. You still see that wall? Good. Now were going
to walk across the dance floor directly toward that wall. No stops, no
looking in either direction. Now!
Go back to your target.
Now that shes seen your ability to command attention now that
youve got the rock star halo shell feel herself being
subtly nudged toward you by millions of years of evolutionary heritage.
Her body will be tingling, as all the billion cells of her body elbow
each other and whisper to her: Hey, this guy can really kill woolly mammoths!
Thus, the Tribal, Societal model..
Remember, as you start exerting more and more group leadership, that its
easy to become an authority figure, because humans are programmed to expect
hierarchies to develop. The crowd waits for a chieftain to emerge. And
one always does. (He neednt be spectacular or exceptionalhe
just needs to speak loudly or stride forward boldlythis pretty much
qualifies him for the job.) And when one does emerge, the crowd, as a
whole, breathes a sigh of relief: At last, someones taking charge.
The Parental Level: Cat and Mouse
When you and she are alone, your job changes. Now you dont need
to show you can command the room, you need to show that you can control
her. And you control her, paradoxically, by not needing to control her.
You control her by making her want to catch you.
You control her by not needing her.
You make her want to catch you by presupposing that she wants to catch
You make her want to catch you by explicitly, verbally statingplayfully,
but as a fact that she is the one chasing you.
She wants agreement, acceptance, approval.
Play keep away with these things, in the same way that a boy
might hold his little sisters doll out of her reach. Age regress
her; infantilize her; make her feel like a child.
Give her some praise or approval; then, in the next breath, take it back.
Criticize some other quality she has, or, even better, something shes
doing or failing to do.
Be the teasing, demanding, impossible-to-satisfy father figureeven
if you and she are the same age.
As with the group leadership thing, the father-figure thing is a role.
Its an archetype etched in her ideational world. Its a position
waiting to be filled.
Dont worry about your personal qualifications.
Just remember that she wants someone to play this role with herto
call her bluff, to knock her down to earth, to show that he sees where
shes messing up and has no qualms about letting her know.
And you have no qualms about letting her know, because you dont
care if she rejects you. Hey, shes the one whos chasing you,
remember? And the world is filled with gorgeous women. Women prettier
than she is. And they all want someone like you.
So youre willing to tell her, No.
And the more you demonstrate that youre not one of the spineless,
drooling clowns mesmerized by her big glossy eyes and bone structure and
facial symmetry and waist-to-chest ratiothe more you show youre
not a suckerthe more often that you can comfortably and enjoyably
tell her, No, the sooner shes going to be willing to
ultimately say, Yes.
Frustrate her immediate, superficial desire for male subservienceher
desire for guys to do what she wants them to--and by doing so, fulfill
her deeper, more hidden desire for male supremacyher desire for
one, special man, one better than all the others, who is so strong and
so sure of himself and so aware of his own value that she cannot control
him and must instead admire and desire him. Your strategy at this level
of interaction consists of ambiguity, rejection, unpredictability.
At this level of interaction, your magic words are Maybe
and No and Ive changed my mind.
Remember, this is a social roleshe wants you, she wants someone,
to do this.
You are not hurting heryou are tantalizing her.
She is not like a dog, eager for a straightforward game of fetch.
She is like a cat, eager for a game of cat and mouse, a game
in which you offer her something she wants, wave it, make her want it,
and then pull it away from her, so that she has to chase it down. And
once she chases it down, you take it away from her againbecause
if you just let her have it, shell get bored with it. Take it away
from her, so that she again has to chase, and the game becomes fun for
In this case, the thing she wants, the valuable thing you show and then
take away, is your attention, approval and affectionor, more simply,
the valuable thing is you.
From her perspective, that you can say No to her means that
you can say No to others. You are demonstrating your ability
to protect her.
The stronger you are, the safer she feels.
Thus the parental, dyadic, one-to-one, Im OK Youre Not OK,
pimps up/hoes down model.
You might still be wondering, though: Well, if I know a girl really
likes me, then its easy to be a jerk
but if Im just
a jerk, and she doesnt like me, whats to keep her from just
telling me off and walking away?
There are two factors here: First, being cocky and self-assured makes
you more interesting and attractive.
Second, you can use words to get her brain excited and sexually aroused.
Thats what were going to talk about next.
The Invisible Level: Eternity in a Grain of Sand
Weve talked about using group pressure and social dynamics to make
her feel that wanting you is the right thing to do.
Weve talked about playing cat and mouse to make her
feel that you are cagey enough to control a situation, and powerful enough
to protect her.Now were
going to drill down to the next, most hidden level: Thoroughly understanding
the rules that run her brain, that determine how she sees the world, that
lead her to start feeling itchy and tingly and hot and eager.
These rules give you the tricks you need to start punching the hidden
buttons in her brain, so can immediately get her increasingly fascinated
and restless and sexually aroused.
When you understand how a womans brain works, the other pieces start
snapping into place. A clear, simple, logical pattern emerges. You start
to recognize, more and more easily, that women--their behaviors, their
whims, their responses, their sexual hungers, their erotic pressure points--are
completely logical and predictable.
Superficially, these things seem illogicalbut thats because
youre a man, and men and women have different mental and physical
The brains and nerves and organs of men and women operate differently.
Compare PCs and Macs. Outwardly, they look pretty similar. But their internal
physical components are different. And they run different programs.
When you understand the different programs, in a detailed way, you can
do astonishing things with them.
A woman has a different set of mental programs than you do.
Id say that she has a different set of metaphysicsa different
of beliefs about the worldbut that would make what were talking
about sound hard, and its actually laughably easy. (Remember, a
one year-old kid has a different set of metaphysics than you do; the kid
believes everything comes from, and happens in relation to, mommy and
daddy. You see things differently, and you know, among other things, that
to get the results you want, you need to get the right information, and
then take action.)
So you can gain an extraordinary advantage by operating on the invisible,
metaphysical level knowing and shaping how she sees the world and
what warm, pleasurable feelings shes beginning to sense tingling
in her body.
Understand this: A woman has different beliefs than you about what is
true and real and important, different psychological reactions to common
concepts, different biological responses to external stimuli.
And, interestingly, shes incredibly erotically sensitive to things
By doing certain simple things you ordinarily wouldnt, youll
see her face light up and glow; youll feel her becoming emotionally
warm and open; youll hear the low, raw arousal in her voice and
know youve crossed a threshold.
And shes hungry. She hides it, but shes hungry.
You know that ticking clock, the clock of time and opportunity passing
you by? It ticks a lot louder for her than for you.
You can make yourself more and more attractive, either by learning how
to turn women on or by acquiring wealth (or both!).
on the other hand, hits a peak early in life, and then swiftly and steadily
The older she gets, the more her sexual value fades.
The older you get, the more (if you continue to invest in developing your
skills) your sexual value can grow.
And its quick and easy to make your sexual value grow, when you
understand that theres a quirk to the female mind, and how it gets
aroused. You dont have to be good-looking or rich to meet and enjoy
more and more beautiful women; you just have to understand how the female
When you finally understand how a womans mind works, you can easily
and naturally and comfortably guide it where you want to go.
A womans mind moves like a sailboat.
A mans mind moves like a car.
If you try to guide a woman as you would a man, youll end up bumping
the sailboat pointlessly against the pier (how would that feel?)
or going in the wrong direction (seem familiar?)
or being left,
not moving, going no place, dead in the water (know what I mean?).
A woman is erotically sensitive to language.
You can use words and ideas to turn her on. Not just any words or ideasonly
the ones that slide into her brains natural (but hidden!) grooves.
The grooves that, most of the time, are left untouched. Empty. Hungry.
Know how her brain works, and youll find your words filling her
mental grooves. Youll see her face flushing with appreciation.
Remember, her brain, like the rest of her body, is different from yours.
It operates in different ways. It releases different chemicals. It processes
data differently. It remembers events differently. It gets highly aroused
by certain words and ideas.
So when you know what to say and how her brain works, you can take any
concept at all and make it brush against the nerve-endings other men cant
seethe nerve-endings other men will likely die, never having really
learned about, never having really benefited from. (If you have kids or
are planning to have kids, this is the kind of information you really
want to pass on, before they hit age 13.)
To start getting a handle on these differencesthe differences from
which all else springs, the differences that make everything else suddenly
clear and simple and logical and easyyou can start watching lots
of soap operas. Start watching talk shows aimed at women. Start reading
womens romance novels. Listen to women talk, when they feel really
comfortable and relaxed, and when they think there are no men listening.
Do this for a couple of weeks, until you truly know, for yourself, that
women dont just seem differentthey actually are different.
See for yourself that women live in a completely different subjective
universe than yours. (Or, if you dont want to waste all that time
and energy, just take the shortcut.)
Remember that when you understand the rules of a womans mental universe,
you can shape her universe. You can talk about anything, and make it fascinating,
intoxicating, erotic. Her brain becomes a machine you can use, just like
a computer; her thoughts become things you can guide, just like a word
processing program or a web browser.Remember
that by understanding the internal, invisible, metaphysical level, you
naturally come to understand the other levels.
And if you want to see the radically different but extremely simple rules
of her universe specifically diagrammed and mapped out if you want
to easily and consistently be one step ahead of her, amazing her and dominating
and thrilling her again and again with your penetrating insight into the
needs she tries to hide and the needs she didnt realize she had--
if you want to easily discover the exact words and concepts that slide
right into the pleasure slots of her skull, so you can choose to turn
a potentially boring conversation into something that she experiences
as a titanically intense sexual event that makes her eager for more and
more and moreif you want to hurry up and get to the Land of Sexual
Delight, right now, just go here.
J.D. Fuentes, Copyright 2005
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